“Possible Uncomfortable Moments Ahead”

I’m not a Doctor, Psychiatrist, Counselor or a Disorders Analyst! I am a man who tries to understand people and more importantly, a man who just wants to share with you the idiosyncratic way I handle my “stuff” and, the off-centered and sometimes zany ways, I see the world.

In my 68 years on this planet I have never been accused of being “Standard Issue.” Quirky? Unconventional? Assertive? A bit Tilted maybe, but never “Standard Issue.”

As I’ve mentioned before, what you’ll find here on “It’s all Possible” is an honest, open-minded, straight-forward & welcoming ‘Alternative Sphere of Effectual & Encouraging Activity’ where you’ll encounter fresh, unusual, creative and innovative information and ideas on how to successfully survive, strive and best of all, extremely thrive, in the midst of life’s two-faced, contradictory & divergent gritty game of ”Real-Life-Whac-A-Mole.”

Obviously everyone, and I mean everyone, handles life differently. If you’re “feeling empty” or feeling that you’re “running on empty,” take it as a must-look-into moment and purposefully, concernedly and open-mindedly look into why.

Don’t get crack-brained, but calmly and resourcefully start your “Quest for Clarity & Balance” by getting on with a Google search and initiating your own personal inquisition and exploration. Yup, unless it’s a life-threatening situation, it’s a great place to always start and get the answers you need.

Start here:

Feeling Empty?

Google Search “Feeling Empty?”                             

Google Search “top 5 ways to fill that emptiness inside of you”.

Running on Empty?

Google Search “Running on Empty?”

Google Search “Emotional Exhaustion”

If you’re more comfortable, do what I did 30 years ago. I went to a “Mental Health Professional.” For me it was a Psychologist. I went to make sure I wasn’t “tilting” too much or worse, moving beyond the “point of no return.” A check-up and a tune-up are always great things to do. You take care of your body by exercising and visiting your doctor at least once a year? Maybe, you should give your mind equal time. Can’t hurt.

Special Side-Note:

A Smidgen From A Great Article from the “Good Therapy Blog”:

“Feelings of emptiness—a lack of meaning or purpose—are experienced by most people at some point in life. However, chronic feelings of emptiness, feelings of emotional numbness or despair, and similar experiences may be symptomatic of other mental health concerns, such as depression, anhedonia, or schizophrenia. Emptiness can also be experienced as an aspect of bereavement following the death of a loved one. An individual who experiences consistent and severe feelings of emptiness may find it helpful to speak to a Mental Health Professional, especially when it becomes difficult to focus on other aspects of life.”

SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 

1-800-662-HELP (4357)

SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services that leads public health efforts to advance the behavioral health of the nation.

In addition to visiting the psychologist to check things out, I always actively used, and I’m still using, my own “Super-Sized and Pepped-Up Self-Reflection and Heart-Searching Strategies” that I “Unknowingly & Unwittingly” adopted, when I was 13 years old.

That’s What This Article is All About:

“Developing your own Super-Sized & Pepped-Up Self-Reflection and Heart-Searching Strategies and Actions, for when you feel that you’re up to the task of mentally striving to extricate answers and an attainable remedy for Running on Empty, Feeling Empty,” Getting a Mental Alignment, Getting Mentally Unraveled and, most of the time, Just Figuring Things Out.”

You’ll find in this article that your entire Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Strategic Team, is made up of Questions + Information Aggregation + Introspection + Retrospection + Self-Evaluation + Prime-Movers + Self-Talk + Mindfulness.

These are all powerful success support tools that are enabled and empowered to guide you on to victory for any Success Quest that you launch. They’re all covered here in this article and throughout the ItsAllPossible.com Blog.

Before You Move Forward . . .

Please take a moment to read this two-part important message as of November 23, 2019

 The Important Message

Part 1 of 2

1-This post is 9790 words of meaningful and helpful stuff.

2-In this post I broke it into 6 “Refueling Stops” for you to be able to take breaks at intervals without losing your place.

3-I am in the midst of adding images and media to make it visually fun and meaningful.

4-As always if you need me reach out and touch at [email protected]

The Important Message

Part 2 of 2

As I’ve mentioned many times. . . My articles are very well researched and thorough. I never just give my opinions or just lay out my experience. I also provide links for you to get additional information that would also benefit you. I’m not uncomfortable in also including positive messages and excerpts from other articles and giving full credit to their authors.

I believe that we all must work together and support each other. We all come out winners when we all reach out beyond the borders and boundaries of our personal spheres of influence.

The bottom Line? My posts are very long but, like my blog, they’re filled with the same might and moxie ideas and information that we all could use to push and pull to achieve and be victorious, in whatever we set our minds to.

“What you will find here on “It’s All Possible” is an honest, open-minded, straight-forward & welcoming ‘Alternative Sphere of Effectual & Encouraging Activity’ where you’ll encounter fresh, unusual, creative and innovative information and ideas on how to successfully survive, strive and best of all, extremely thrive, in the midst of life’s two-faced, contradictory & divergent gritty game of ”Real-Life-Whac-A-Mole.”

Thanks a million,

Warm Regards,

Barry

Introducing the Most Powerful and Super-Sized & Pepped-Up:

Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journey, Quest and Meandering Strategies + Support Tools, that are in all of our Success Support Arsenals

AND

“Using these strategies & support tools to strive for answers and an attainable remedy for “Running on Empty,” “Feeling Empty,” Getting a Mental Alignment, Getting Mentally Unraveled and, most of the time, Just Figuring Things Out.”

Recently on a beautiful Saturday fall afternoon in the midst of one of my involuntary retrospection quests, my own “Self-Awareness” decided to compound my foul mood by throwing me one of my own Quirky, Unconventional and Characteristically Tilted “Cut-the-Shit” Parties.

My “Cut-the-Shit” parties or moments, were something that I unwittingly created as a young 13-year-old kid growing up in Brooklyn. It was a strategy that I intuitively embraced and subsequently, consciously and comfortably set out to explore, experiment and practice with it, in order to get experience using it.

Why was it easy for me, at a young age, to realize the power of this amazing strategy that I later called my “Pepped-Up-Self-Talks?”:

I was very comfortable talking to myself.

I was very comfortable yelling at myself.

I was very comfortable arguing with myself.

I was very comfortable with laughing at, and with myself and, crying by myself.

I wasn’t afraid to be raw, emotional and honest with myself.

There’s no secret here and you could do it as well. How? It just takes Practice.

It just takes Practice and It just takes Practice.

And most important of all . . . It just takes Practice. . . and besides. . . why should you give a shit? There’s no one around to hear you. As long as you don’t snitch on yourself you’ll be fine. Explore, Experiment, get the Experience and Practice using it.

Have fun with it. Get to know yourself. Write down what comes out of your talks with yourself. The more you practice the faster and more powerful you’ll become in controlling your thought process.

After a while you’ll feel more comfortable and start to courageously wander over the borders and boundaries of your comfort zone. You’ll love the experience and better yet, you’ll find that you are more than you ever thought you were and, you’ll become your biggest fan and the person who loves you more than anyone else in the world.

And that’s the way it should be!!!

This Awareness & Awakening materialized after an older kid said to me when I started to make excuses why the profits from the cartons of cigarettes that I was “misappropriating” from a store where I worked, was something “I couldn’t just share with him at that place in time.”

“Cut the Shit!!! “What the hell does that even mean???” He screamed. “Do it or you’re dead-meat” he basically said. Well I’m a fast “learner” and he was a great “teacher.”

His hard-hitting words “brought home” the seriousness of the “situation’s reality” quite rapidly. It certainly was an electrifying jolt to “my reality,” and his reality? I have no clue but if I had to guess, “his reality” always seemed to be “what’s yours is mine and what’s mine better never be screwed around with.”

The Lesson Learned:

Hard-hitting and booming emotional words that you declare aloud to yourself can extraordinarily set a person on a new, exciting, and potent course of action in their life.

Your Purposeful, Significant, Sustainable and Honest Pepped-Up-Self-Talks should be able to incite ‘Shock & Awe’ with the sole intention of inspiring and motivating you to profoundly & deeply panoramically think about your situation and create productive and effective Pepped-Up-Self-Talks.

A Bit of a Mouthful: These gripping and forceful words when delivered expeditiously, passionately, emotionally and animatedly, will be enabled and energized enough to help start you on your quest for effective and swift summarization, explicitation and characterization of the situation at hand and subsequently, create the perfect conditions for the galvanization of the mind and “everything that it has the power to do” to help you deep dive and figure “it” all out and that’s how. . . your “Pepped-Up-Self-Talk” comes on line.

Introducing the Ginormous Originator for all Your “Pepped-Up-Self-Talks”

These coach-like “Pepped-Up-Self-Talks” have the sole responsibility of wresting clarity from any and all discombobulated situations or challenges and, ensure the facilitation of successful soft landings for all these situations and challenges.

I found that through using the principles that make up my The P.E.E.E. Concept: {Practicing, Exploring, Experimenting, Experience}, for the development of the might & moxie in my “Pepped-Up-Self-Talk” strategy, that the most effective way to successfully initiate and sustain a purposeful and extremely impactful “Pepped-Up-Self-Talk” is to wrap yourself in an exceptionally enthusiastic and impassioned state-of-mind or more bluntly, get Jacked-Up or Revved-up. More on this later.

My state-of-mind certainly went into overdrive after my “dust-up” and the subsequent “détente” with “my new partner.” The moving and impelling words from “my new partner,” the neighborhood entrepreneurial gangbanger and extortionist, triggered a jolt and emotional shock to “my reality” resulting in the “conjuring-up of passionate” feelings, followed by the realization of a Lesson Learned.

The new “partnership” worked out great of course. For him at least. Me? I had no sensical, rational options to choose from, although, I didn’t realize it until weeks later but, I was effectively introduced to a very personal, powerful and new “Prime-Mover Support Tool Concept,” that would follow me my whole life and thus, my Ginormous Originator was begotten.

After my new partner’s Prime-Mover Rant of “Cut the Shit!!! “What the hell does that even mean???,” “Do it or you’re dead-meat,” I knew my best bet was to sign up for this new partnership immediately.

In the days that passed I found that my anger and resentment triggered stirring and emotional outspoken self-dialogue and of course, it was conducted out-of-earshot of the world around me. I cursed him and myself out loud when I could and, Internal-dialogue dominated my thought process when there were people around.

My ranting and raving eventually led me to more substantive self-dialogue that inspired me to create new and exciting, albeit amateurish and imperfect, business street-principles at this early age.

The Great News: Unbeknownst to me at this point in my life, my Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journey, Quest and Meandering Strategies + Support Tools were now in play and ripe for development.

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Definition of “Prime-Mover”:

Someone or something, or in our case, “words & emotions,” that have a major influence on the starting or development of something. An initial natural or mechanical source of motive power. The self-moved being that is the source of all motion.

Our Definition of Our “Prime-Mover Support Tool”:

1-Rousing and meaningful assertions, statements, words and emotions, all used distinctively, inimitably, inclusively and, for inciting the launching of Pepped-Up-Self-Talks.

2-These Rousing and meaningful assertions, statements, words and emotions should be rolled out vociferously and, made up of Coach-like impassioned words and emotions.

3-Prime-Movers are one of the more powerful success support verbal & cerebral tools in your success support arsenal.

The prime directive of any chosen “Prime-Mover Support Tool” is that it should be enabled with enough potency, zealous influencing, persuasiveness, alluring mindfulness and provocative power, as to be able to function as an impactful emotional encourager or prompter, with the sole intention of triggering, stirring and emotional outspoken self-dialogue, conducted out-of-earshot of the world around you and that consequently, encourages the jump starting of an energized, productive and, effective Pepped-Up-Self-Talk.

Bottom Line:

1-To initiate the launch of your own Pepped-Up-Self-Talk, your Ginormous Originator AKA your “Prime-Mover Support Tool,” must start and lead the process.

2-It’s unwavering and natural aspiration is to guide you and help you move smoothly while remaining fully motivated, into your Pepped-Up-Self-Talk by adopting the posture of a “super-provocateur.”

3-It must lovingly and boldly, help you go where you have never gone before. It must strategically shove you out and over the borders and boundaries of your comfort zone and, encourage you to panoramically scrutinize your world and the world around you, in order to help support you on your quest for broader self-awareness.

In retrospect, not only was this “engagement” with my new street partner a meaningful and pivotal moment in my life but, it was also an important Street Lesson Learned in “Shakedowns & Extortions.”

It also “brought in to being” and energetically actualized, the impactful answers to the newly created inspirational success support questions of, “What is self-talk,?, “How do I do “Self-Talk”? and, “How else could or should I use Self-Talk? This was a key element in me being able to develop my strategies and concepts.

My next step, or should I say, “Fate’s next step for me,” was that I unknowingly and quite imperceptibly, launched an introspective and retrospective exploratory journey.

Inspired and prompted by curiosity and being naturally inquisitive, this exploratory journey, took on a life of its own. At some point I finally realized that my Pepped-Up-Self-Talks were most effective by asking myself the right questions in the right way. . .getting actionable answers and. . . practicing my Pepped-Up-Self-Talks any chance I could.

In fact when I was 27 years old, the wife of my business partner whispered in my ear that she saw me walking briskly in the street and talking to myself. I smiled and whispered in her ear “shhh don’t tell anyone. That’s my super-power.”

This new life chapter, my life chapter, in learning how to simplify and strengthen the power and influence of my Pepped-Up-Self-Talks by just learning how to ask the right questions in the right way, became an overwhelming quest for information and ideas, and in effect, it became a personal and exciting “cause celebre” for me.

 So what does “Cut-the-Shit” and “What the hell does that even mean?” have to do with dealing with “Feeling an Emptiness Inside of You or, a feeling of running on empty?”

It’s simply about getting answers. It’s about clarity and understanding. Bear with me please, I’m getting there.

.The “Cut the Shit!!! “What the hell does that even mean???” prompt is basically one of my favorite “Prime-Mover Support Tools”.

It’s a simple 10-word visceral prompt that I use, that when followed by healthy, respectful, and seriously visceral “Pepped-Up-Self-Talk,” I feel comfortable in being open to new ideas, new ways to look at events and happenings in my life and, actually even allow it to serve as my trusted guide for me surviving, striving and thriving.

These Prime-Mover Support Tools help get me in the mood to launch my “Pepped-Up-Self-Talks” that I now look forward to.

I find the dynamic duo of Prime-Movers + Pepped-Up-Self-Talks amazingly cathartic even when I launch raw intercourse, tirades and diatribes or, just heap plain bullshit on myself. They’re fun. They’re sad. They make me mad. I laugh. I cry. They make me proud of who I am. I scream and most of all, they help get me where I want to go and, where I need to be.

There are some very creative Prime-Mover Support Tools that I use as prompters but this “Cut the Shit” dynamic 10-word visceral prompt in particular, helps me prudently and confidently super-charge my Pepped-Up-Self-Talks which in turn, makes it easier to smoothly shift my life’s beliefs, directions, parameters and methodologies, in order to break through to healthier and more transformative emotional zones and comfort zones and always, helps me just “figure shit out.”

The strategy is very rewarding primarily because I know that I’m initiating these exhilarating “Pepped-Up-Self-Talks,” deliberately, innovatively and, that I’m specifically launching them to be able to control and navigate my own life and personal-growth.

“Prime-Mover Support Tools” + “Pepped-Up-Self-Talks” are two of the very powerful daily-life support tools that are essential for helping you survive, strive and ultimately, thrive. Essential to you because you’re the only one who can and should take responsibility for your life and hold no one but yourself accountable for your successes and your failures.

You could somehow justify stating that you’re not responsible for your initial, and most times, reactive negative thoughts and actions. But, you’d have a tough time justifying to yourself or anyone else for that matter, that you’re also not responsible for how long you focus on them, act on them or, do nothing and let them mentally take you on a trip to ”A land That Time forgot” or. . . A Never-Never Land and Beyond.”

It’s all about believing in yourself and believing that you could be more than you are. It’s caring about yourself and, understanding that you, and you alone, are the Jennifer Walters or the Amadeus Cho of your life.

You’re the only one who could victoriously lead and effect a transformative shift in your life resulting in the ordinary, evolving into the extraordinary and, solidly rerouting and ensuring safe voyage to healthier emotional, physical and financial circumstances in your life.

More importantly, it’s about extraordinarily respecting yourself and at the same time, putting the world on notice that you control your life and that you will never accept unwanted mental or physical distractions and intrusions from anyone who wants to be in your life.

Drilling Down on the Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journey, Quest and Meandering Strategies + Support Tools

AND. . .

Using these strategies to strive for answers and an attainable remedy for “Running on Empty,” “Feeling Empty,” Getting a Mental Alignment, Getting Mentally Unravelled and, most of the time, Just Figuring Life Out.

To figure out anything or any situation, you need to purposefully and deliberately scrutinize the situation or event and, mentally and physically panoramically poke & prod around and, resolutely explore with keen and penetrating mindfulness, perception and consciousness.

Basically, you need to know everything you can about the situation or event before you could make responsible and effectual decisions on what to do to resolve them.

The Prime-Mover Support Tools + Pepped-Up-Self-Talks Strategy is available to you for your private use 24/7/365. It’s availability is unbounded and it’s there to serve you and assist you in sorting things out in order to reach the goal of becoming mentally aligned, mentally unraveled or, just figuring things out.

In order for the Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journey, Quest and Meandering

Strategies + Support Tools to be effective and work smoothly, there are two ancillary support tools that you must receive wholeheartedly, enthusiastically and, that you must conciously and deliberately remember to make them an integral part of the process:

1-Retrospection- the action of looking back on or reviewing past events or situations, especially those in one’s own life.

2-Introspection- a reflective looking inward : an examination of one’s own thoughts and feelings.

Nobody on the face of the earth has the right to join you or, should have access to these Deep-Dive Self-Talks. Deliberate Self-talks or Unconstrained Self-Talks, both have the power to crush a good person or, help that good person soar, flourish and become, one of the greatest and most productive citizens of the world.

Yup. . .Your Self-Talk is that transformative.

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Self-Talk Defined:

The act or practice of talking to oneself, either aloud or silently and mentally.

Self-talk is your internal and/or external private, confidential and self-awareness deep-dive dialogue, that should always take place in an environment of solitariness.

Ten Spoonful’s of Self-Talk Elucidation:

1- “Self-Talk is the most powerful form of communication because it either empowers you or it defeats you.” -Unknown

2–“Good self-talk can help you act; the feelings will take a bit longer.”-Robert Taibbi. . . Read his great article “Why Self-Talk Won’t Automatically Help You Feel Better”

3–“It’s not what we say out loud that really determines our lives. It’s what we whisper to ourselves that has the most power.” Unknown

4- “You’re not crazy if you talk and have conversations with yourself. You’re Crazy if you don’t” – Unknown

5- “Appropriate, Relentless and Repetitive Self-Talk is what changes our self-image.” Denis Waitley

6- “ Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love. Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish-It makes you Indestructible.” -Brene Brown

7- Great Google Search: “Appropriate ways to Self-Talk.”

8–“Be careful how you’re talking to yourself because you are listening.”-Lisa M. Hayes

9-“Be Alone. . . Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. Talk to yourself & Do it compassionately, firmly and purposefully. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who lights up your life, you’ll be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.”- Bianca Sparacineo

10- “The quality of your life is the quality of your Self-Communication.”― Anthony Robbins

The Prime-Mover That Started It All:

“Cut the Shit!!! “What the hell does that even mean???”. . .

One of the More “Honest-to-Goodness” Versions I now use:

“No !!!“Cut the Shit!!! You feel empty Barry??? What the &£$%^$ does that even mean??? Explain yourself Man!!!

Besides my Grandmother, who passed away in 1976, my Self-Talk has been the only other true and authentic best-friend I’ve had all my life. It was only when my son David was born 30 years ago that I became very lucky from that day on, to then have three very best friends.

I believe it’s my three best friends that have got me through every challenge I faced in life.

It’s the three things that have saved my life and, that my friends, is a whole ‘nother story for another day.

From a young age, as I slowly, purposefully and consciously proceeded to ramp up the actual use of my “10-word visceral Prime-Mover” and the cathartic Self-Talk Strategy that followed, and calling on it, on a reliable and unfailing basis, made striving for answers and an attainable remedy for “Running on Empty,” “Feeling Empty,” Getting a Mental Alignment, Getting Mentally Unravelled and, most of the time, Just Figuring Life Out, a whole lot easier.

With my new strategies and principles being forged and developed, understanding how to play life’s “Emotional Whac-a-Mole” game didn’t seem so overbearing anymore. “Understanding” is the operative word in any and all of your Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journeys, Quests or Meanderings.

From your private Success Support Arsenal, Self-Talk should be made your prominent Success Support Tool that’s used for your clarity and understanding quests, throughout your life.

“It is the spur of ignorance, the consciousness of not understanding, and the curiosity about that which lies beyond, that are essential to our progress.”

-John Pierce

The Deliciously Random and Cascading Prime-Mover and its counterpart, the Consequential Self-Talk, for me, became my personal agents of change and, were unquestionably instrumental in heightening the speed and efficiently of my emotional rebounds, when faced with challenges and events that I needed to unravel or just figure out.

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”

– Norman Vincent Peal

The moment I initiate a “Prime Mover,” my Self-Talk naturally takes the cue, gets revved up and, becomes empowered with sustainability and motivation, both fueled by my “Power of 8 Inquisition Team”: The Who, What, When, Where, Why, How, Which one and What’s next?

“ A beautiful question is an ambitious yet actionable question that can begin to shift the way we perceive or think about something and, that might serve as a catalyst to bring about change.”

-Warren Berger

The “Prime-Movers,” part of the Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Strategies, dominate and possess the intensity level to vigorously morph my Pity Parties into Hissy Fit Parties that are brewed with anger, frustration, overzealousness and, sometimes all three and more. But, at this pivotal point, I start to feel energized, motivated and clearheaded. I’m able to introspectively go wherever my “Self-Talk” takes me.

I’m open for it. I look forward to the journey no matter the length of it or the disquiet it may bring forth. I know that “Its” end-goal is to support me on my quest for answers and clarity of purpose. Like I said, it’s one of my “best friends.”

Later in my life, in addition to my compelling “Power of 8 Team,” some of the more equally effectual support tools that I used to form my opinions, principles, ideas and concepts are laid out and published here on Its All Possible.

The following triad represents some of the more effectual support tools that I developed and are basically a result of my life’s Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching journeys, quests, meanderings and, were all examined, investigated and sorted out by implementing combinations of Self-Talk, Introspection, Retrospection, Exploring, Experimenting, Real-World Experiences and the daddy of them all. . .each and every one, Wrapped in Inqusitiveness.

These triadic aggregating and gleaning information initiators and sources were all instrumental and indispensable in helping me to Sculp & Mold my life’s path, piece by piece:

1-‘P.E.E.E. Concept’

2- Questions & Shredding

3- Curioposity  

Prime-Movers, these visceral prompts, these visceral kicks in the ass, were exactly what I needed. It was an empowering feeling knowing that I could not only jump-start and feel the power of my own “Self-Talks but, the Mindfulness Moments I experienced were just as invigorating, and as time went on, I came to feel that I was truly becoming “The Boss of My Life.

“Mindfulness Moments”

The reason I now deliberately and inextricably mention “Mindfulness Moments” in relation to the subject of “Prime-Movers” & “Self-Talks,” is all because of one definition of “Mindfulness” that I found and, a definition that just totally and powerfully resonated with me.

I found this one potently motivating definition of “Mindfulness” on WordHippo.com .It felt like it actually jumped out and grabbed me by my balls, my eye balls that is, and had me reading it over and over again. Here it is:

“Mindfulness” Defined:

“The practice of bettering oneself without relying on the assistance of others.”

This one very simple but stirring definition, made it very clear to me as to why “Self-Talk” is, without exception, the most powerful success support tool in everyone’s & anyone’s success support arsenal. “Self-Talk” is all about “Mindfulness.”

Another Definition of “Mindfulness”

“A mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.”

For you to figure out anything or any situation you need to purposefully and deliberately scrutinize the situation or event by mentally and physically panoramically poking & proding around and, resolutely exploring with keen and penetrating mindfulness, perception and consciousness, in order to achieve “Clarity and Balance.”

It all starts with you and no one else. It’s your thought process and most important of all, it’s your desire “to do good things for yourself” that will lead you to “Refinement and Edification.”

By now I’m sure you realize that when your Introspection, Retrospection, Prime-Movers, Self-Talks and Mindfulness, are working side-by-side, they become the impetus for all things “Plain as a Pikestaff & Graspable” which in turn, makes it easier to achieve “Clarity & Balance.’

“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

-Jim Rohn

So, how do you personally generate the “Might & Moxie”needed in order to make your Introspection, Retrospection, Prime-Movers, Self-Talks and Mindfulness possible and sustainable? How do you empower and enable yourself to keep motivated and determind?

“Your most important sale in life is to sell yourself to yourself”

-Maxwell Maltz

“Coaches don’t provide answers. They ask questions.”

-Jesse Lyn Stoner

“A good coach can change a game, a great coach can change a life.”

-John Wooden

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Just Tips & Tools:

Getting to the Heart and Essence of the Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journey, Quest and Meandering Strategies:

Your entire Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Strategic Team is made up of Questions + Information Aggregation + Introspection + Retrospection + Self-Evaluation + Prime-Movers + Self-Talk + Mindfulness.

This is a dazzling-team with enormous consequential power. Power that you have first dibs on to embrace. These strategic team members, members of your team, could actually all fall under the broad pervue of “Coaching Tools.”

With these “Coaching Tools” in hand you must step up and take the position of “The Coach”and start the P.E.E.E Concept: Practice, Experiment, Explore and Experience to determine what your team is capable of doing and, what they can do to always glean relevant and effectual answers and an attainable remedy for “Running on Empty,” “Feeling Empty,” Getting a Mental Alignment, Getting Mentally Unravelled and, most of the time, Just Figuring Things Out.

You need to be the Head-Coach. You’re in charge. You are the Boss of your entire team and absolutely the Boss of Your Life! You’re the captain of your ship! You’re in control of your narrative!

Keep it all tightly in your grip and, do not yield control of this to anyone. Share some of it with a professional if need be but beyond that, firmly “keep it in house under your watchful eyes.”

How to be your own coach? In my research for this post I came upon the following website and I found this great article.

Key Coaching Skills and Attributes

Found on Skillsyouneed.com

“Please Note: My Two-Cents are in Blue Font.”

1-Coaches generally have high emotional intelligence: they’re good at understanding and relating to people, and they’re interested in people. You have to genuinely want to help others develop to become a really good coach. It’s no good just paying lip service to the idea.

You just have to have a blazing passion and high-octane inquisitiveness to find out all about youself. Don’t feel funny about talking to yourself. It’s all about taking care of yourself and “doing good things for you.” That is true emotional intelligence. You and only you, have to work towards being a strong and understanding friend and coach to yourself. . .First.

2-Coaches need to be able to show empathy and be good at building relationships, including building rapport.

Do this inwardly and privately. Build a relationship and rapport with yourself and your life will move beyond the borders and boundaries of your comfort zone, to places that exist outside of anything you could ever dream of.

3-Good coaches also have strong communication skills. For more about developing communication skills in general, see our pages: Communication Skills, and Developing Effective Communication Skills.

Speak “out-loud” to yourself in anyway and at any volume you want to. Scream, curse, whisper, cry, laugh, jump up and down. . . whatever. Just make sure the Prime-Movers are animated, spirited and arousing and, that your Self-Talks are filled with inquisitiveness, rapture, affection and determination.

4-Coaches are good at gathering information and then clarifying it for the person being coached. They generally have strong listening skills, including active listening.

Retrospection, Introspection and these triadic aggregating and gleaning information initiators and sources, together, will get you what you want and what you need:

A-‘P.E.E.E. Concept’

B- Questions & Shredding

C- Curioposity 

5-They don’t jump in straight away with the answer but rather make sure that they’ve fully understood the issue by reflecting and clarifying.

Initiating Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching journeys, quests and meanderings in addition to the resources in # 4, will take care of this.

6-Similarly, coaches have usually taken time to develop strong questioning skills. It’s been said that coaches should never offer opinions, but instead only ask questions to guide the person being coached through the issue. This is similar to the role of a counsellor.

Once again: See #4

7-Coaches and coaching leaders give space and time for people to try things out. They don’t get over-excited or angry about mistakes, instead they concentrate on how to recover the situation calmly and with the involvement of the person who made the mistake. They are skilled at providing feedback and using tact and diplomacy.

1-There is no such thing as mistakes, only lessons learned.

2-During the Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching journeys, quests and meanderings the only one qualified to provide feedback to you is “You.” It’s only your footprints & fingerprints found when intiating Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journeys, Quests and Meanderings.

3-Being relentlessly and mercilessly honest with yourself will reveal the answers to all your questions if and when, you dig-deep. . .very deep.

4-Self-Evaluation at every step of the Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching journeys, quests and meanderings will have a transformative and an exponential ripple effect on your quest to find answers about: “Running on Empty,” “Feeling Empty,” Getting a Mental Alignment, Getting Mentally Unravelled and most of the time, Just Figuring Things Out.

“There are no mistakes in life, only lessons. There is no such thing as a negative experience, only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of self-mastery. From struggle comes strength. Even pain can be a wonderful teacher.”

— Robin S. Sharma

“Honest introspection and self evaluation can prove incredibly valuable in the journey of life.”

-Unknown

“When you show up for yourself you can show up for the world more completely.”

-Gabby Bernstein

“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.”

-Alan Alda

“Without proper self-evaluation, failure is inevitable.”

John Wooden

IQ Matrix Blog: Regular periods of self-reflection and self-evaluation effectively allow you to:

• Learn from your failures, mistakes, and experiences.
• Clarify your values, priorities, and strengths.
• Release emotional attachment to people, things, and events.
• Make better choices, independent decisions, and new associations.
• Remove inner roadblocks that hold you back from achieving your goals.
• Examine your habitual behavior patterns and intuitive feelings.
• Uncover hidden dreams and aspirations as well as undiscovered potential.
• Gain deeper insights into your thoughts and a vast array of experiences.
• Expand your perspective and understanding of people and situations.
• Better spot potential problems and opportunities in advance.
• Respond calmly and appropriately to challenges that may have otherwise hindered your progress.

Refueling Stop #4

“You’ve got to really Feel, in Preparation for making it Real”

Prime-Movers are rousing and meaningful assertions, statements, words and emotions, all used distinctively, inimitably, inclusively and for inciting the launching of Pepped-Up-Self-Talks.

These Rousing and meaningful assertions, statements, words and emotions should be rolled out vociferously and, made up of Coach-like impassioned words and emotions that must be embedded into your Prime-Movers. Prime-Movers are one of the more powerful success support verbal tools in your success support arsenal.

Words do matter and their end-goal and only mission, is to empower Prime-Movers with the ability to go to the “depths of feelings” you’ve never experienced before. The right words matter. Words that make your blood boil. Words that provoke, antagonize, incite, charge-up and even disgust.

Words set off emotions and emotions create the circumstances to enable your Self-Talk to possess the vigor to push and pull you to where you need to be.

Prime-Movers are a result of you feeling that something needs looking into. It could reveal itself in the form of an emotional quiver and up to and through, an emotional tsnumai.

It could be an emotional overflow of something, or not. It could be a highly combustible something, or not. It could be mundane everyday somethings, or not. It’s your reaction to those somethings that will trigger an emotional overload, or not. Either way you know that something needs looking into.

What ever emotional reaction rears its heated or impassioned head up, consider it a good thing. Use it as an alert signal that something needs looking into and it’s time to initiate Self-Talk protocols and get into the mood for an exciting Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Journey, Quest or Meandering.

There are no rules or built in inflexibilties when embarking on your Self-Talk Journey. You just start talking out-loud. Anything goes.

Your emphatic and audible Self-Talk and You could. . .

1-Move in an alternating motion and volume.

2-Likely change frequently, suddenly, or unexpectedly.

3-Give to sudden and unaccountable changes of mood or behavior.

4-Occur at uneven or varying rates or intervals.

5-Stand, sit, or jump up and down.

6-Act without thought.

To enable your Self-Talk to go the distance and maintain the passion needed until you get what you need, “You’ve got to really Feel, in Preparation for making it Real.”

These are examples of coaching & enlightenment prompts and guides that I use during my Self-Talks to keep them stimulating which in turn, keeps me in the mood and able to maintain the searing passion that I need for staying resolute and determined:

• “Feel” how far you’ve come.
• “Feel” what you’ve gone through to get to where you are right now.
• “Feel” what it was like all the times you pushed, pulled and probed until you made breakthroughs and progress and never forget why you did it.
• “Feel” your relentless pursuit of being the best you could be.
• “Feel” the times you wanted to give up and never did.
• “Feel” the one time you did give up.
• “Feel as many Sensations of “Life” as you can.
• “To Feel” Defined: “Feel” means to be aware of a physical or emotional sensation. Feel is most often used as a verb, meaning to physically touch something or, to be emotionally conscious of something.
• “Feel” the Fear but do it anyway”: Build confidence by boldly stepping out and pretending, imagining, fantasizing and then “Feeling ” the experience of going places where you never went before and “Feel,” doing things you never thought you were capable of doing before. Explain your “Feel” in each and every situation. Do not stop until you verbally get it all out. Write it down.
• “Sensations” Defined: A mental process (such as seeing, hearing, or smelling) resulting from the immediate external stimulation of a sense organ often as distinguished from a conscious awareness of the sensory process. Awareness due to stimulation of a sense organ.
• How to Feel all of the above. . . and beyond? Ask all the Questions and, “Feel” all the Answers to your coaching & enlightenment prompts and guides. Use your “Power of 8 Team” to get you to where you can achieve success on this personal and worthwhile quest. The “Power of 8 Team”:Who? What? When? Where,?Why? How? Which one? and What’s next?

“The Great Art of Life is Sensation, to Feel that We Exist, Even in Pain.”

-Lord Byron

“Don’t sit and wait. Get out there, feel life. Touch the sun, and immerse in the sea.”

— Rumi

“Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.”

– Kevyn Aucoin

Singing is my passion, my first love and the secret of my energy. Music to me is like finding my inner self, my soul. It gives me a great joy to see audiences enjoying with me. I have given my heart to singing. When I sing, I can feel romance in everything around me.

-Kailash Kher

“Must” Ado About Nothing?

Speaking of the Inimitable and

Dynamic duo of “Feelings & Words”

In all my years there has been one word in particular, that I find to be provoking and a word that fires-up my rebellious alter ego. The word is “Must.” You must do this, you must do that. I don’t respond well to “Bully Bullshit.” I don’t have to “Must” anything. I never clearly understood the power of the word “Must” except for the fact that it’s a “screeching in to my ears” and, it pisses me off.

But one day, I decided to look-up the word “must” in the dictionary. I don’t remember why. That was certainly a bizarre, and at the same time, a stirring moment. Fate? Coincidence? By Chance? Crazy? Maybe all of the above. The why is not important to me.

The world of words and how you use them, deserves much more of a discussion and review than we’re able to give it here at this time. Words have such an impactful and transformative force that just one word could literally change your life. The power of words is that compelling. Here’s a glimpse of how compelling:

“Change your words, Change your life” Tony Robbins

The world’s greatest leaders and progressive thinkers have always used the power of words to transform our emotions to help inspire others toward their vision and create actionable change.

From Winston Churchill’s focus on the “finest hour” to Martin Luther King, Jr.’s depiction of a “dream,” it’s evident that words shape our entire existence. But what about our own ability to use words internally to change our lives for the better – words that will ignite change, inspire action and improve our quality of life?

Can changing your words change your life?

Our words are a vehicle for expressing and sharing our experiences with others, but you may not realize the far-reaching impacts of the words you use on a daily basis.

How you speak to yourself directly influences how you experience things in life. If your internal self-talk is negative, chances are that your external experiences will be negative as well.

“Over the past 40 years, I’ve had the privilege of working with more than 50 million people worldwide and I’ve witnessed the power that changing just one key word in a person’s vocabulary can have on the way a person feels – and how that person behaves.

By simply changing your habitual vocabulary – the words you consistently use to describe emotions – you can instantaneously change how you think, how you feel and how you live.”

“Language shapes our behavior and each word we use is imbued with multitudes of personal meaning. The right words spoken in the right way can bring us love, money and respect, while the wrong words—or even the right words spoken in the wrong way — can lead to a country to war. We must carefully orchestrate our speech if we want to achieve our goals and bring our dreams to fruition.

—Dr. Andrew Newberg, Words Can Change Your Brain”

“Must” Defined

Definition #1: To be obliged to.

“You must show your ID card”

Definition #2: Expressing insistence.

“You must try some of this fish”

Definition #3: Used in ironic questions expressing irritation.

“must you look so utterly suburban?”

Definition #4: Expressing an opinion about something that is logically very likely.

“there must be something wrong”

Definition #5: Something that should not be overlooked or missed.

“this video is a must for parents”

I don’t know about you but this word was always a non-starter for me. I never really “saw or heard” what it actually brought to mind because of the feelings and emotions that resulted from the sheer provocation it inspired.

Definition #1,#2 and #3 when used in that context, was what I always seemed to hear, and it would set me off and always seem to compel me to hurl my guard-up. Pride? Maybe. Ego? Maybe. Authority issues Sarner? Absolutely!

Refueling Stop #5

Eventually, through some of the “scholarly research” I did, I became aware of, and came to grips with, the Motivating Power of the Word “Must”:

”Must is to ‘Should’ as ‘Strive’ is to Try.”

Definition of Must:This is the definition that helped me to view the word “Must” as a very compelling and impactful success support tool: “To be under the necessity to, and required; To be a certainty or very likely.

“If we’re really determined to succeed, we Must never give up.

Definition of Should: Is more of a recommendation, or simply a desirable goal.

– You Should visit us more often; we hardly ever see you nowadays.

Definition of Strive: Make extreme efforts to achieve or obtain something. Struggle or fight vigorously, earnestly and persistently.

-I’m going to strive to be the first to climb the mountain and

I will not stop until I get there.

Definition of Try: Just make an honorable attempt or modest effort to do something.

-I don’t know if I can do it, but I’ll try.

“And, yes, words do matter. They may reflect reality, but they also have the power to change reality– the power to uplift or to abase.”

— William Raspberry

Coming Soon an Article on:

“The World of Words, Emotions, Feelings.”

When I publish it, I’ll update you here on ItsAllPossible.com

And, on our PositiveMessagesUniverse.com

Actionable Thought Provoking

“Must-Mindset” Tools:

“You ‘Must’ tell yourself, ‘no matter how hard it is, or how hard it gets, I’m going to make it’.”

-Les Brown

“If you can’t, you ‘Must.’ If you ‘Must,’ you can.”

-Anthony Robbins

“To change your reality you ‘Must’ change your mentality.”

– Daniel Ally

“Important principles may, and ‘Must’ be inflexible.”

-Abraham Lincoln

“Knowing is not enough; we ‘Must’ apply. Willing is not enough; we ‘Must’ do.

-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“You ‘Must’ do the things you think you cannot do.”

-Eleanor Roosevelt

Remember your dreams and fight for them. You Must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure.

-Paulo Coelho

“Must” is one of the more compelling, potent and effectual words I deliberately and purposefully grab on to for all aspects of my Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching quests.

Your only concern should be, that when in the throes of working with your Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Strategic Team, made up of Questions + Information Aggregation + Introspection + Retrospection + Self-Evaluation + Prime-Movers + Self-Talk + Mindfulness, the distinctive and stirring words you adopt, must be a group of words that you’re comfortable with and, that are deeply meaningful, vigorously motivational and, convincingly inspiring to you.

Refueling Stop #6

Feeling Empty?

Vs.

Running on Empty?

The evolutionary formation of my Self-Reflection & Heart-Searching Strategic Team Concept, made up of Questions + Information Aggregation + Introspection + Retrospection + Self-Evaluation + Prime-Movers + Self-Talk + Mindfulness, is the reason I now know how to mentally strive to extricate answers and an attainable remedy for Running on Empty, Feeling Empty,” Getting a Mental Alignment, Getting Mentally Unravelled and, most of the time, Just Figuring Things Out.”

When I finally arrived at the Cerebral Juncture of Clarity and Understanding, I was heartened to ultimately realize that I was able to differentiate between Feeling Empty and Running on Empty, two very transformative asseverations that when juxtaposed, could certainly be a perfect scenario for confusion and misdirection.

Being able to draw a distinction (See Below) between the two, helped me put many of my more emotional life experiences and, my “mindfulness moments,” in their proper perspectives.

In other words, it enabled me and empowered me “to get my shit together and break through and get to the other side of emotional and personal, troubling or confusing situations and challenges.”

Asseveration #1- “I’m Running on Empty”:

This was easy for me.

Here I’m mentally and emotionally exhausted for some reason that’s obvious or it’s still “to be determined.”

The Brobdingnagian  (had to use this word, I love it) telltale signs that I was running on empty, were that I would feel tired, cranky and, felt that everybody seemed to be talking too loud, talking gibberish and annoying me and, they all seemed to intentionally and deliberately violate my personal space by disregarding my Personal Borders & Boundaries.

It’s not about being an irritable or an irascible old guy. Looking back, 16 years old or 68 years old, it’s always been the same emotional parasite and unambiguous sign that I was Running on Empty.

When I felt myself getting pissed off at the smallest things and, I was overwhelmed by a need to close my eyes, I knew it was time to withdraw from everything and everybody and get some rest. I needed to get reinvigorated. I spent most of my energy and I reached the point where I’m emotionally broke. I knew that making decisions in this state could turn out to be a “bad dream” story tomorrow morning.

“I’m Running on Empty”:

Common Realizations: You gave it your all. . .You gave it everything you had. You’re exhausted. . . It was extremely challenging . . . They were energy vampires. . . He or She is an energy vampire. . .You spent your emotional energy on foolish stuff. . . You’re emotionally in the hole due to lack of sleep. . . You have no, or very little, physical and/or emotional energy left after the workout.. . .You have no choice. Your work demands you continue to work and be active when you have no energy left. . . Getting involved in uncomfortable social or business events or situations with an attitude of dread that results in functioning with no or very little enthusiasm, energy, or resources . . . Your Emotional Stamina Level is at rock bottom for no apparent reason yet and you continue to forge forward.

“You sometimes think you want to disappear but all you really want, is to be found.”

–Unknown

Bottom Line: “Running on Empty” is about being Emotionally tired or totally exhausted. The extent of the exhaustion is all determined by your comfort zone thresholds and/or, your tolerance for pushing and pulling through to the end of the challenging or stressful situation at hand.

“Emotional exhaustion is a state of feeling emotionally worn-out and drained as a result of accumulated stress from your personal or work lives, or a combination of both. … People experiencing emotional exhaustion often feel like they have no power or control over what happens in life.” -Healthline

People experience emotional exhaustion differently, but generally symptoms include:

-Healthline

lack of motivation

trouble sleeping

irritability

physical fatigue

feelings of hopelessness

absentmindedness

apathy

headaches

change in appetite

nervousness

difficulty concentrating

irrational anger

increased cynicism or pessimism

sense of dread

depression

resentfulness

Relief: Being aware of the “Energy Expended” and, respecting and exploring what’s “behind, under, over and around” the new-found “awareness,” is the “jumping-off point” to realizing how and why you’re “Running on Empty” and, how to correct your ‘Running on Empty” status.”

Top 10 Relief Tools:

1-Rest

2-Take yourself out of the energy draining situation

3-Read or listen to music. Do anything that relaxes you.

4-Exercise. Even a slow walk could help.

5-Until your feeling up to it just say “No” to anything that “looks like and smells like” an energy vampire.

6- Ask for help. Ask family, friends or co-workers to give you more support.

7- Immediately check, clarify or establish your personal “Borders and Boundaries”  and then shore them up.

8- Just do nothing and sit under a tree and introduce yourself to mother nature.

9-Let the tears flow if you feel them wanting to be released. Tears are your pressure valve. For men and women.

10- Read more on Mental/Emotional Exhaustion or, “I’m Running on Empty”:

10 A-Google Search:

“Top 5 ways to relieve mental and emotional exhaustion.”

10B-Article: “Emotional Exhaustion:      

“Emotional Exhaustion: What It Is and How to Treat It.”

10C- Article: Drained All the Time?S

Drained All the Time? The Psychological Causes of Exhaustion.

“Go above and beyond for yourself! You do it for family, friends, and colleagues, but don’t forget about YOU. It’s important to include yourself… You are worthy of your own kindness, too!”

― Stephanie Lahart

Asseveration #2- “I Feel Empty”:

The Bottom Line: To deal with “feeling empty” or “running on empty” you need to get to “Circumstance-Zero.” You need to strive to pinpoint the protagonists or the leading instigators that are at the forefront of your “empty” situation, human and non-human. You need to find out where and how it started. You get there by deep-diving and asking the kind of questions that start with: Who? What? When? Where,?Why? How? Which one? Doing it yourself or with support from a Mental Health professional is critical in how you’ll get to know what your “Empty” is all about.

For me personally, the following “Feeling Empty” quote best describes how I sometimes feel when thinking that “I’m Feeling empty”:

“I can’t describe what I’m feeling. I’m not happy, and I know that. But I’m also not exactly sad either. I’m just caught right in between all these emotions and I feel so Empty.” -Unknown

Feeling empty is a strange and uncomfortable sensation. It can be momentary, situational, or long-lasting. When you’re feeling empty, this emptiness can feel unfulfilling, confusing, and upsetting.

It’s not my goal to enable you to decide your condition and remedy by just reading what I wrote. My only goal is to introduce the Self-Reflection and Heart-Searching Strategies and Actions that I use to explore and remedy why I’m Running on Empty, Feeling Empty or, I need to Get a Mental Alignment, Get Mentally Unravelled and, most of the time, Just Figuring Things Out.”

There are 6 points I do feel are

very important to mention:

 

Point #1

Some of the more prominent symptoms of “Feeling Empty” are:

a-Continuous feelings of sadness, anxiety, or emptiness

b-Feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, or worthlessness

c-Disinterest in hobbies you once enjoyed

d-Eating too much or too little

e-Trouble concentrating and making decisions

f-Physical symptoms can also occur with depression.

g-People may have frequent:

headaches

cramps

stomach upset

other pains

Point #2

The American Psychiatric Association strongly suggests that Symptoms of “Feeling Empty” that last two weeks should be met with a visit to a Mental Health Professional or sooner, if you feel it’s life-threatening.

Point #3

It’s your decision as to what support tools you use and, it’s your decision as to what route you take in order to understand and decide what appropriate corrective and alleviation measures you should take.

You cannot make a mistake here. The only mistake you’ll successfully make is not being a stubborn advocate for yourself and, by doing nothing but suffer and letting mental discomfort become part of your life. No Pity Parties. Stop it and help yourself at once!!!

Point #4:

A “Reiteration”

A Smidgen From A Great Article from the “Good Therapy Blog”:

“Feelings of emptiness—a lack of meaning or purpose—are experienced by most people at some point in life. However, chronic feelings of emptiness, feelings of emotional numbness or despair, and similar experiences may be symptomatic of other mental health concerns, such as depression, anhedonia, or schizophrenia. Emptiness can also be experienced as an aspect of bereavement following the death of a loved one. An individual who experiences consistent and severe feelings of emptiness may find it helpful to speak to a Mental Health Professional, especially when it becomes difficult to focus on other aspects of life.”

SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 

1-800-662-HELP (4357)

SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services that leads public health efforts to advance the behavioral health of the nation.

Point #5

Google Search: How to find mental health services.

Point #6:

“Save Yourself First”

“Nobody will ever have your back in life more than you will have your own back. Save yourself first.”

-Sylvester McNutt III

“People can only do so much as to save you. In the end, saving yourself has to be your choice.”

-Rubyanne

“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”

-Buddha

“There is a reason flight attendants tell you to put your mask on first in an emergency … you cannot be important to anyone else if you are not first and foremost important to yourself. Appreciate and love yourself then use that to do the same for others. In other words, save yourself first.”

— Shelley K. Wall —

You Could Do it!

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I hope it helps you.

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Please feel free to explore my blog and in particular, please read ‘The t.r.i.p Concept’ and the ‘The i.m.a.p.p Concept.’

The two concepts, a total of 9 separate components, are made up of a total of 170 pages with approx. 44,000 words. Each component is easy to read and they’re meant to be individually reviewed slowly and deliberately.

If you go to the top of the Its All Possible home page, you’ll see the two concepts listed and each one has a drop down that lists the components and allows for you to access one component at a time.

Here’s how it lays out:

‘The t.r.i.p Concept’: Part #1-Truth; Part #2- Reality; Part #3- Inspiration; Part #4- Positivity

‘The i.m.a.p.p Concept’: Part #1-Inspiration; Part #2-Motivation; Part #3- Action; Part #4-People; Part # 5- Persistence.”

Your Success Support Arsenal: ‘The t.r.i.p Concept’ gets you to the starting gate; ‘The i.m.a.p.p Concept’ gets you to the finish line.

• Phase 1: The t.r.i.p Concept: Truth + Reality + Inspiration+ Positivity
• Phase 2: The i.m.a.p.p Concept: Inspiration + Motivation + Action + People + Persistence
• Phase 3: The two concepts begin working in tandem and now in phase 3 they’re all working together. Combining all the components in both concepts creates a firm foundation for a very compelling Success Support Arsenal.

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• Over 63 years of “street” experience.
• Over 40 years of starting and building physical, virtual world and internet businesses.
• Over 40 years of starting and building many different types of businesses.
• Becoming a millionaire and then “turning my back” and “walking” away from it. I will get it back. I have many powerful and impactful teachable moments to share.
• Knowing hundreds and hundreds of wealthy and/or successful men and woman over 60.
• Knowing hundreds and hundreds of wealthy and/or successful men and women under 60
• Knowing thousands of successful people from all around the world through face to face networking, social media and as serving as President of Macaby Group, an international company.
• Started, and never stopped, reading and studying about Positivity and Success back in 1975 as a young Stockbroker trainee for a brokerage company named E.F. Hutton. They gave us the book, “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, to read and study as part of our training program.
• Dreamed of being rich since 1962, when I was 10 years old and when my father left for the first time. He left a total of 3 times. Finally, he was gone for good the third time. You know the saying . . .
• My attitude: “You may see me struggle but you will never see me quit.”
• Over 40 years of doing many smart things and doing some very dumb things. Huge lessons learned.
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