Please consider the information in this brief chapter to be just a Bold and In-Your-Face Accentuation. . . A Roaring Reminder. . . a Disruptive & Rowdy Awakening . . .a Vigorous and Visceral Enlightenment and. . . a Leverageable Life-line. . to what you  should allow to continue, in the way you bring people into your life.

Getting the message so far?

Just a little more. . .

Yes, it’s that impactful and crucial for you and your quality of life.

This chapter is a concise, penetrating and profound “recapitulation” of a very provocative and crucial “It’s All Possible’s” Imapp “lifeline-Success-Support-Tool.”

The subject may be uncomfortable at this moment in time but nevertheless, it’s a “recapitulation” that will enable and empower you to make major breakthroughs, advancements and a transformative impact on your life’s endeavors and adventures, resulting in peace, happiness and success.

This “lifeline-Success-Support-Tool” will energize you and create the fortitude you need to be able to barrel right down the center of a crowded or jam-packed playing field of humans from all different walks of life and, make it possible for you to strategically, one by one, embrace them, localize them, constrain them or banish them, in order to move onward and upward to live a peaceful life and achieve all your dreams and/or goals.

My blog’s, ItsAllPossible.com, “People” article, found in the “The Imapp Concept,” Part 4 “People” will provide more comprehensive information on “People.”

This article highlights the most impactful and compelling Success Support Tool you’ll ever have access to and, it’s conveniently available to you 24/7/365

Onward and Upward

Your “Human & InHuman” interactions will determine all the Who, What, Where, When Why, How, Which One’s and What’s next in your life. People, both “Humans & Inhumans,” will either get in your way or, show you the way.

Once again, yes, they’re that provocative, transformative, consequential and impactful regarding your life’s path, goals, passions and purpose in life.

This Quirky Success Support Tool #2, “Relational Manipulations and The Purge Strategy,” sits on a solid foundation made up of a clear and profound “Proper Perspective Premise,” that’s uniquely supported by 4 Pillars of Relational Insight and clarity” and, that simply yet profoundly states, that you must unequivocally, strategically and deliberately consider yourself, and act 110% accordingly, as the Number One Most Important Human in your own life.

The Four Pillars of the Premise:

“Your Success & Quality of Life all Hinges On Making Yourself Unequivocally, Strategically and Deliberately The Number One Human in Your Life”

      Pillar #1       

“You need the right people with you, not the best people” -Jack Ma

Pillar #2

“You cannot change the people around you but, you can change the people that you choose to be around”-Unknown

Pillar #3

 “In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for every person you meet. Some are there to test you, some will use you, some will teach you and some will bring out the best in you. Choose Wisely & Categorize.”-Unknown

Pillar #4

You are allowed to terminate toxic relationships. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry, selfish and unforgiving. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of yourself. Everyone benefits when you treat yourself as Number One and stay mentally and physically strong.   -Unknown

This is not about ego, narcissism or selfishness. It’s only about one fact. . .

“Everyone benefits when you treat yourself as Number One and, stalwartly & indomitably remain mentally and physically secure.”

A Mindful Moment

“Relational Manipulation and The Purge Strategy” are the two most powerful and consequential Success Support Tools available in your Success Support Arsenal.

They are impactful enough to help you achieve maximum effectiveness in creating social and “livelihood” success and most important of all, peace and tranquility in your life.

There are two major Stress Instigator Categories that everyone, and I do mean everyone, is “charged ” with and, are indisputably and wholly affected by them: 1-Humans & Inhumans 2-Your Thought Process.

Quirky Chapter #2 is only concerned with the “Human & InHuman Category.”

Human Defined: A human being, especially a person as distinguished from an animal or (in science fiction) an alien. A bipedal primate mammal (Homo sapiens). Of, relating to, or characteristic of humans.

InHuman Defined: Lacking human qualities of compassion and mercy; cruel and barbaric. Not human in nature or character.

“People”: a body of persons that are united by a common culture, tradition, or sense of kinship, that typically have common language, institutions, and beliefs, and that often constitute a politically organized group.   

“Being Aware” is the key to successful Relationships and, successful relationships are the key to success in every aspect of your life.

Right here on It’s All Possible, I have a comprehensive post all about “People.” This post will give you credible information about “People” and how your interaction with them, will determine what kind of positive or negative impact they could have on your life.

Please see The Imapp Concept Part 4 “People”

The reason I wanted to add this chapter about “People and Relationships” at this point in time is to emphasize that the “People” conundrum is one to be embraced and not avoided or resented.

I believe it’s important enough to gain as much information about “People” and “Relationships” as you can and to never stop researching and learning.

Please see my success support article here on ItsAllPossible.com: Information Part #2: Information Aggregation using ‘The p.e.e.e Concept’: Practice, Explore, Experiment, Experience .

The concept I want to discuss now in this post is about how to “discreetly, courageously, vigorously and most importantly, morally and ethically, “manage the people” in your life, in order to expressly determine what roles they’ll play, or not, in your life.

All the basic information you need is in my “People” Post on ItsAllPossible.com but here, we take it to another level. We bear down and get unrelenting and up close and personal in pursuit of the “right” people for all the different aspects of your life.

Using a simple, yet powerful Success Support tool I’ve named The E.N.D. Strategy, you’ll be able to create an effective exploratory and editing process that ultimately will help to achieve what you need in building a strong “People Union” that’s “Drenched in Relational Clarity.”

The E.N.D Strategy:

Examine & Evaluate

Negotiate & Navigate

Differentiate & Demarcate

Step #1-Examine & Evaluate

The Here & Now:

            You’re Just Eyeballing & Sizing Up Your  “Dream Team” in Order to  Answer Two Questions: Who’s In? Who’s Not?

Examine” Defined: Inspect (someone or something) in detail to determine their nature or condition; Investigate thoroughly.

Evaluate” Defined: Form an idea of the amount, number, or value of; assess.

Tips n’ Tools: To invariably be able to obtain the relevant information that you must have, habitually apply this Success Support Question Tool which is the most impactful of all the tools in your Success Support Arsenal: “The Power of 8”: Who, What, When, Where , Why, How, Which one and What’s next?

Make lists of people that affect or could affect your life. Here is what I suggest. You certainly could create or add your own.

The Kind of Categories used to determine the “Who’s In? Who’s Not?”

People I want out of my life

People I like & want in my life

People I like & need in my life

People I don’t like but I need in my life

People I’m not sure of or I’m undecided about

People I like & possibly will need later in my life

Don’t feel guilty about strategically and deliberately scrutinizing “people” to determine where they fit into your life. It’s a survival puzzle that you will come to appreciate. You may feel uncomfortable now but you’ll get over it and you’ll cherish and be grateful for the compelling progress and clarity it will bring into your life’s journey.

It actually will be good for you and good for everyone that is in your life or that you’ll allow into your life. It brings honesty and transparency into your relationships.

Step #2-Negotiate & Navigate

The Here & Now:

At this juncture, it’s all about you and your Morals, Ethics, Comfort Zone Parameters, Tolerance level, Self-Confidence and Self-Respect.

“Negotiate” Defined:

To arrange for or bring about through conference, discussion, and compromise. . .Find a way over or through an obstacle or difficult path. . . To deal with some matter or affair that requires ability for its successful handling.

“Navigate” Defined:

To find out where you are or where you are going. . .To find and follow a path through a difficult place. . . To go somewhere, or to move in a particular direction: head, go, progress… To deal effectively with a complicated situation.

Tips ‘n’ Tools: To invariably be able to obtain the relevant information that you must have, habitually apply this Success Support Question Tool which is the most impactful of all the tools in your Success Support Arsenal: “The Power of 8”: Who, What, When, Where , Why, How, Which one and What’s next?

Before You Dig-Deeper: Before you’re able to dig deeper and achieve a vivid and clear-cut “determination of the actual nature of the connection you have with these individuals and, the extent of the interaction and connection you have with these individuals, you need to establish where the lines of your Borders & Boundaries” are marked-out.

Where Are Your “Borders and Boundaries: The marked-out lines of your “Borders and Boundaries” are clearly defined places or spaces where your responsibility ends and another person’s begins. It stops you from being diverted and distracted from the things that are important to your life and well-being.

URGENT: This is the “Juncture” where your “Self” is Negotiating & Navigating with your “Self” and no one else, in order to build a network of positive, inspiring, moral and ethical people.

If you have to reach out to people you irrefutably trust and highly respect, in order to get information on these other people, I strongly recommend, and I do mean “strongly recommend,” not doing it or at least, speaking only obscurely and in “Hypotheticals” and never ever reveal anyone’s name.

If you do not heed this polite warning your actions could surely create a combustible moment and, blow to smithereens, any and all the relationships that you were considering.

Side-Bar: This “Borders and Boundaries” Quest will “Push & Pull” us through hyper-personal territory and, it will take much more research, discussion and time, than we’re able to effect here, in order to give it the review it deserves but nevertheless . . . it’s a quest that is unequivocally worthwhile, essential and, definitely life-altering.

Our aim here and now is to simply 1-Identify. . .2-Notify. . .3-Clarify and 4-Fortify the initiatory information that will serve as the impetus for you to launch an in-depth “Borders and Boundaries” Quest that will lead to a greater understanding of who you are and what you need to do regarding a rational and respectful “Relational Manipulations and The Purge Strategy.”

My suggestion is to start your “Borders and Boundaries” Quest here: A Google Search for “Personal Boundary Setting”

Relational “Borders & Boundaries” setting within and beyond your comfort zone, will actually open your world to boundless opportunities and a heap of well-being.

Healthy “Borders & Boundaries” are not obstacles to block others out of your life, they are filters that enable us to access and surround ourselves with the “right” people who are ably capable and, who can inspire and motivate, in order for us to “grow” our lives in a healthy, happy and fruitful way.

Personal “Borders & Boundaries” are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.

Setting “Borders & Boundaries” is all about negotiating with yourself as to what you’ll tolerate or won’t tolerate as you learn more about who you are and where you’re headed. It’s about navigating and practicing based on the information gleaned from your self-retrospection and self-introspection.

Setting “Borders & Boundaries” is a process. Take prolific notes as you explore, experiment and experience what you’re feeling as you move your “Borders & Boundaries” around in order to accommodate those feelings.

You need to aspire to eventually create clear and well-defined “Borders & Boundaries.” People need to know where your “Borders & Boundaries” begin and what you’ll accept or push back on. If not, people will always be invasive in one way or another and, by no fault of their own. You must communicate and not expect people to read your mind.

Please see my success support article here on ItsAllPossible.com: Information Part #2: Information Aggregation using ‘The p.e.e.e Concept’: Practice, Explore, Experiment, Experience

Once Again. . .My suggestion is to start your “Borders and Boundaries” Quest here: A Google Search for “Personal Boundary Setting”

Step #3–

Differentiate, Demarcate & Deep-Diving

“Differentiate” Defined:

Recognize or ascertain what makes (someone or something) different. To mark or show a difference in: Determine a contrasting element that distinguishes (someone or something) from others.

“Demarcate” Defined:

Set the boundaries or limits of. Separate or distinguish from.  To set apart. To show the limits of something To mark, fix, or draw the boundaries, limits, etc. To separate or distinguish between (areas with unclear boundaries). To limit or control something or someone. The action of fixing the boundary or limits of something.

“Deep-Diving” Defined:

To examine something in great detail in a short space of time. An attempt to find out information. A thorough analysis, perhaps one that seems excessive or unwarranted for a particular topic.

Tips ‘n’ Tools: To invariably be able to obtain the relevant information that you must have, habitually apply this Success Support Question Tool which is the most impactful of all the tools in your Success Support Arsenal: “The Power of 8”: Who, What, When, Where , Why, How, Which one and What’s next?

The Here & Now:

“Your End-Goal & Single-Minded Quest is to now deep-dive and apply “The Power of 8” questions to each and every one of these individuals that are in your life, or that could be coming into your life and, getting to really know these individuals and determining the actual nature of the connection you have with these individuals and, the extent of the interaction and connection you have with these individuals.”

“ A healthy, vibrant and dynamic relationship is about two things: first, find out the similarities, second, respect the differences.” -Unknown

This entire post is a very compelling and far-reaching topic that deserves deeper discussions and more intricate and more thorough information and ideas. We will explore all the subject matter in this post in a more comprehensive way in future articles. This post will serve as a strong Success Support Tool that will get you on your way to controlling who steps into your sphere of influence and. . .on your terms.

“Don’t regret knowing the people who come into your life. Good people give you happiness. Bad people give you experience. The worst ones give you lessons and the best ones give you memories.”-Unknown

Thank you for taking the time to read my article.

I hope it helps you.

Good luck.

Please feel free to explore my blog and in particular, please read ‘The t.r.i.p Concept’ and the ‘The i.m.a.p.p Concept.’

The two concepts, a total of 9 separate components, are made up of a total of 170 pages with approx. 44,000 words. Each component is easy to read and they’re meant to be individually reviewed slowly and deliberately.

If you go to the top of the Its All Possible home page, you’ll see the two concepts listed and each one has a drop down that lists the components and allows for you to access one component at a time.

Here’s how it lays out:

‘The t.r.i.p Concept’: Part #1-Truth; Part #2- Reality; Part #3- Inspiration; Part #4- Positivity

‘The i.m.a.p.p Concept’: Part #1-Inspiration; Part #2-Motivation; Part #3- Action; Part #4-People; Part # 5- Persistence.”

Your Success Support Arsenal: ‘The t.r.i.p Concept’ gets you to the starting gate; ‘The i.m.a.p.p Concept’ gets you to the finish line.

• Phase 1: The t.r.i.p Concept: Truth + Reality + Inspiration+ Positivity
• Phase 2: The i.m.a.p.p Concept: Inspiration + Motivation + Action + People + Persistence
• Phase 3: The two concepts begin working in tandem and now in phase 3 they’re all working together. Combining all the components in both concepts creates a firm foundation for a very compelling Success Support Arsenal.

If you have any questions or advice, please feel free to email me at [email protected]

I welcome all comments. Actually, your feedback would be greatly appreciated. Raw or well done, I’ll take it all.

Once again, thank you very much for stopping by.

Extra Stuff- My concepts and all the articles I’ll write, are all backed by:

• Over 55 years of “street” experience.
• Over 40 years of starting and building physical, virtual world and internet businesses.
• Over 40 years of starting and building many different types of businesses.
• Becoming a millionaire and then “turning my back” and “walking” away from it. I will get it back. I have many powerful and impactful teachable moments to share.
• Knowing hundreds and hundreds of wealthy and/or successful men and woman over 60.
• Knowing hundreds and hundreds of wealthy and/or successful men and women under 60
• Knowing thousands of successful people from all around the world through face to face networking, social media and as serving as President of Macaby Group, an international company.
• Started, and never stopped, reading and studying about Positivity and Success back in 1975 as a young Stockbroker trainee for a brokerage company named E.F. Hutton. They gave us the book, “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, to read and study as part of our training program.
• Dreamed of being rich since 1962, when I was 10 years old and when my father left for the first time. He left a total of 3 times. Finally, he was gone for good the third time. You know the saying . . .
• My attitude: “You may see me struggle but you will never see me quit.”
• Over 40 years of doing many smart things and doing some very dumb things. Huge lessons learned.
• I’m a good “beginner” and I’ve learned many, many, many things from my over 40 years of mistakes and missteps.

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